What makes you think you are the only one who wants a hot 28yo sex slave on the side???

I am slightly amused and bemused by the fact that men at 38, and mid mid-life crisis, suddenly and quite irrationally believe they are rock stars & that women of the same age have suddenly, or certainly are on the verge of, chunking up over night & becoming non entities in the appeal stakes. Umm how about you take a long hard look at reality boys!!!

As I recently Tweeted...No crazies, you didn’t hear the cylon activation music and you certainly didn’t download in a nearby Resurrection ship bath with new and improved bits!!”

The reality I see is that all the eXGEN women I know have gotten even better as they get older. More comfortable, more sexy. Whereas the men just get more lost, confused & miserable...It is all so disappointingly predictable when I hear yet another story of some guy friend, who I have known and cared about for a long time, tell me he is rejecting his life so far because it has ‘done him wrong’...Poor pets!

I have 4 close girl friends, all of us are in our late 30s/early 40s and have been divorced at least once (most of us also chose to leave). Three have children, two are single mums. 4 have supported their husbands financially for a significant period in their relationships. And all of us own properties & have great careers &/or exciting prospects. In the rest of my life I am constantly surrounded by great eXGEN women who are smart, solid, independent, sensible & above all attractive and together, despite what they have had to put up with! Some of them have been with me for 30 years & never once have they really let me down. And through all our individual trials & tribulations you rarely hear a "my life is completely f**d" negative peep out of them. We all expect stuff to happen and just deal and get on with it.

My male eXGENs on the other hand are...well, rather insecure (even the successful ones) and kinda swamped in baggage. I aint seeing much top of the range LV traveling cases either!! The story is always the same...

I’ve worked so hard (yeah join the club , only 20 years of building a career and busting my ass 100 hours a week was a total breeze for me!)

I have so much responsibility, you wouldn't believe (uh huh lets see...two mortgages, 2 businesses, 6 staff at my real job, while sorting myself, plus the mental blokes who have ‘rested’ in my life, out...lucky for me my life is so much easier than yours!)

The last two years of my life have been a complete emotional roller coaster (yeah two divorces, 2 years with the neediest bloke on the planet who couldn’t make a decision to save his life and then an eXGEN boyf who freaked out one day because he could hear MY biological clock ticking and was scared to watch me age, so he told me shagging multiple women under 30 was the answer...my last 10 years have been, emotionally, pretty stable really!)

I haven't got any time to myself (What a shame your children and devoted wife of 15 years are such a drain on your personal time!)

My wife is boring/doesn’t understand me/won't give me enough sex (Christ mate...have a you taken a look at yourself?? You are also 38++ and a little bit grey and flabby. She has put up with your shit for 10-20 years and maybe she looks at you and is thinking “God give me a sensible and hot 30 year old with a rampaging sexual appetite who thinks I’m HOT and I don’t have to add to my list of things the manage)

I need my freedom...it is a normal male thing (Interpret as "I am not coping and want a second chance to get it right")

I think I need to date more 28 year olds (Yes don’t we all!! Except I want to because a 28 yo man is generally happier and closer to his sexual peak and you want to so that you (think) you can take another 5 years to decide whether you should be committing to your next relationship, and in the meantime pretend that you are a rockstar)

I am a romantic idealist...real John Hughes (RIP) movie stuff and I have persevered with many an eXGEN guy over the years. I have great friends amongst them and love them to death in spite of their dumb craziness. They all started well but inevitably lost the plot somewhere along the way...I have sadly come to expect it, though live in hope of one of them getting over the 38yo hump and actually surprising me again with their greatness!

Until then then I will keep letting 28 yo scrumptious (& free) Canadians chat little OLD me up in cafés...while wearing my cougar heels and Prada sunnies (that the last eXGEN I dated let his 5yo daughter choose for me...another story)!! Mx